A 23-year-old had sex with 101 men in a day — feminist, or damaging to women?
Date: 2024-11-02
Lily says she prioritised groups of men because ‘a big group of lads would get the numbers up a lot quicker than doing one-to-one sessions’.
The venue was an Airbnb with security on the door checking IDs to keep Lily safe, as well as four staff members who were Lily’s social media and content assistants and her admin assistant, who had men sign all the necessary consent forms in order for OnlyFans to allow the content to be uploaded.
Metro made Airbnb aware of this activity. A spokesperson told us the filming of commercial pornography is explicitly prohibited and said there is no evidence the videos were filmed in an Airbnb without seeing booking confirmation.
On the day, men who did have one-on-one time with Lily only had a five-minute slot, which was later reduced to two minutes when she began to run out of time.
‘I just stuck to the bedroom the whole day – I think I left once or twice for a shower,’ she says. ‘I just waited for the next guy and then would say to the security guard “send one in”.
‘It became a conveyor belt of c**ks at that point, in out, in out. We ran over by about four hours, but we got there in the end. I wasn’t going to go through all that and not make it to 100.’
The youngest person Lily slept with was an 18-year-old boy and the oldest was a man in his sixties. Alarmingly, an STD test wasn’t a requirement for men to partake, and the videos make it clear that Lily did not use condoms with every participant.
One man specifically requested to be her 100th partner. Lily says he performed oral sex on her, then gave her an oily massage, although it’s not clear how given he likely only had a two-minute slot.
‘I think he was into the fact that I’d been sleeping around with 99 other guys – he kept asking me questions about it,’ she says.
Another man showed up to take the total to 101, before Lily relaxed with a nice shower and a Nandos after a strenuous day – although she insists she wasn’t too worse for wear.
‘I wasn’t actually in pain down there at all. I think because a lot of the guys were quite excited, they finished a lot earlier than we anticipated,’ she adds.
The backlash…
But comments under TikTok videos of Lily’s experience tell a different story. The responses are full of hate and judgment, as well as concern for her wellbeing.
‘You were made for so much more than this,’ wrote @faithholden_, while @cooooks said: ‘This is actually really sad and I hope you are okay.’
‘Porn has been used as an accessible way of social learning around sex and eroticism when other formats of sex education have been censored.
‘We need to stop censoring sex education material from other resources, such as healthy sex education support in schools and colleges, as this will give youth more knowledge and autonomy to safely workout their sex and erotic lives and allow them to judge what is healthy and what isn’t for them.’
Dr Tara, an intimacy and relationships expert, tells Metro that this sexual agency in porn shouldn’t necessarily fuel misogynistic views of women.
‘To each their own. Saying f**k it and having a lot of sex is very anti-patriarchy,’ she says.
Your sexual health:
In nearly every case, condoms will prevent an STI from passing on when having sex.
You should be using condoms when having casual sex and if you don’t you could contract the following:
You can get an STI even if someone ejaculates on your face and it gets into your eyes or mouth.
Oral sex without a condom can also pass on STIs. The risk increases if either of you has sores or cuts around the mouth, genitals or anus. Avoid brushing your teeth or using dental floss before oral sex because it can cause your gums to bleed.
Generally, the risk of infection is lower when you receive oral sex than when you give someone oral sex. However, it is still possible for STIs to be passed on.
But Dr Tara warns there could be serious health implications, both physical and emotional. She says: ‘Sexual health factors such as tearing in the vagina and sexually transmitted infections could be an issue. There’s also the fact of trauma to the body.’
Youth sex educator Ness points out that the idea emotional intimacy is at play in all sexual interactions isn’t true – just like Lily’s interactions.
‘There are a lot of consensual and safe sexual interactions which do not involve emotional intimacy and are still healthy for those involved,’ she says. ‘But porn needs to make covering safe sex, discussions on boundaries and consent the norm.’
